“I feel like I should be doing something else… or there’s something I would rather be doing.”
If I could say that the impact of my entire life was that I inspired even one person to have the courage to become their highest self, then I would proudly say my mission was fulfilled.
I wonder how many people actually discover their life’s calling—and spend their entire lives happily serving that purpose, fully aligned?
Are you one of those people?
The fact that most adults will change careers three to six times throughout their lives tells us something: we are constantly being guided.
But what happens when we don’t listen to that guidance?
What does guidance even feel or look like?
In my earlier years, I used to think that guidance meant being literally guided. I looked for signs. I watched for angel numbers. I searched for evidence—proof that I was on the right path.
Now, I realize the truth is a bit simpler.
We’re not so much searching for guidance…
We’re searching for the truth of what we truly want.
Let’s say, for example, that you’re in the middle of a big decision. You’re asking for divine guidance. You want to choose correctly. It could be anything:
- Which relationship to pursue
- Whether to leave or stay in a job
- Whether to extend a lease
- Whether to buy or sell a house
- Choosing between two apartments—or two cars
Decisions, decisions, decisions.
Life is all about decisions.
We fret, we worry, we overthink. We stay up late with anxiety—fearing the consequences of choosing the “wrong” thing. And the funny part?
Half the time, we don’t choose “right” anyway.
The best way to make a decision is this:
Gather as many facts as you can.
Then—in one bold moment—dive into your deepest heart and choose what feels best to you.
Then, let go. Let the rest fall where it may.
There’s a school of thought in religion and spirituality that says:
“There are no mistakes—because all is guidance, and all is teaching.”
That means every experience, no matter how it looks on the surface, can make you better, stronger, wiser. You stop fearing the “thing,” and instead, invite it to be your teacher.
The idea here is that you’re not here to be perfect—you’re here to evolve your soul, to rise to higher planes of consciousness and being.
And if that’s true, then everything has the potential to help you grow. It’s a way of clearing the guilt from so-called “bad decisions,” turning them into good ones—and moving forward.
Surrender is also a form of self-forgiveness.
You stop blaming yourself. You stop blaming others.
You surrender the thing—and all the emotion around it.
An Example from My Own Life
When I look back over my life and consider all the “good” or “bad” decisions I’ve made… I see something interesting.
Every time I chose something that was truly meant for me, I knew it ahead of time—deep down. I just had to give myself permission to want it. To accept that I wanted it.
And sometimes, that’s the hardest part.
We don’t give ourselves permission.
We hold back.
On the flip side, every time I chose something that wasn’t good for me—I also knew it. There was some inkling, some gut feeling, and I ignored it.
Almost every misstep in business, in relationships, or even just a wrong turn in life—I can say honestly, I was warned in my heart beforehand. And I didn’t listen.
It’s like setting your truck keys down on the tailgate, and a voice inside says:
“Don’t put them there. You’re going to forget.”
And then three hours later, you’re mad—searching everywhere, only to realize… they’re not in the tray by the door where they belong.
Life is funny. We move through it sensing, feeling, thinking, reasoning.
Our perspectives shift as we move through time.
But there is great power in the practice of surrender.
Giving yourself permission.
Choosing boldly what your heart knows is right.
And accepting the results—whatever they are.
One could even say that indecisiveness is a lack of faith.
As you move through life and face your own choices and crossroads, I hope you’ll practice the art of surrender. Trust yourself. Forgive yourself. And most of all—
Give yourself permission to be the person you already know you are.
May the world be filled with people who are fully themselves—
For when that happens, the world will change entirely.
With heart,
Joshua G. Crampton
MultiGen Mindset